Only “Human”
I happened to glance at a “Dear Ellie” column in the newspaper (one of those myriad Ann Landers knock-offs) and it ran something like this: “Dear Ellie, I’ve been dating a married man, blah blah blah, etc.” And then she replied with something like “Well your problem is a communication issue…”
No, your problem is your dating a fucking married man, you slut! Don’t get me wrong, I disapprove of his actions even more but it was the lady who happened to be writing the letter.
It’s really pissing me off how borderline acceptable adultery has become. In fiction particularly it’s often portrayed as some sort of character flaw. No, just no. Drug addiction is a character flaw, rage is a character flaw, being a workaholic is a character flaw; unilaterally shattering the bond with the person you pledged your all to, till death you do part: that’s a failure at life. Murderers, rapists, pædophiles: I put adulterers in the same category. What’s the point of a marriage vow if there’s no consequences to breaking it? At the very least I think infidelity should be regarded as tantamount to waiving child custody. How the hell are you supposed to be a role model? Yet in some countries adultery isn’t even taken into consideration in divorce proceedings. For people in abusive relationships I guess I can understand it but that still doesn’t justify it.
They had their priorities straight in the olden days. The affair of Sir Lancelot and Guinevere leads to the downfall of Camelot, the deaths of Arthur and Gawain and ends with the two lovers adopting celibacy. Now that’s some seriously righteous consequences. Now this is not to say that the folks of the middle ages were perfect. In particular, kings seemed to be somehow immune to the no adultery rule. Of course the best monarchs (Edward the Confessor, Richard the Lionheart, Henry V, Henry VII) curiously don’t seem to have had mistresses.
[Ed.--In retrospect I think comparing adulterers to murderers, rapists and pædophiles was a bit harsh. Nevertheless I do think there should be some form of punishment for what is, essentially, the breach of a contract. However, I believe the emotional devastation caused by adultery can be comparable to those previously mentioned heinous crimes.]